Your Body Language Shapes Who You Are…
…how you carry yourself,
where your eyes move when your speaking,
your usage of specific words in your vocabulary…
means EVERYTHING ….
and definitely is a factor in your energy,
and ability to ‘Invite Abundance’ into your life!
**and definitely tells the world a story about the real you, too!
Allow me to give you some visuals…and simple as they are,
they give others a glimpse into who you are…
BEFORE you ever even open your mouth!
Now, depending on where a persons eyes and posture are held,
that will also tell a brief story,
by the time they uses words of power and persuasion (or not),
we will have already decided if they’re someone we can trust,
whether they’re an authority on the subject they speaks on and …
her/his personal self confidence.
…and that is the visceral experience of your body language,
of everyone’s body language.
I often ‘people watch’ and make excellent guesses ….
about people’s character and…
I’m especially good at guessing where they are ‘at’ with who they’re with…
I’m watching their body movements, muscle tension, eyes/facial expressions, etc…
try it yourself, it’s interesting …
once you’ve dialed in what body and eye movement and patterns means.
(and please never do this at anyone’s expense,
in fact, please use it only to help…if you share your observations at all)
Whenever we put our arms in front of us …
we are exposing that we are ‘guarded’ on some level.
It could be that we aren’t even that conscious of this behavior…
and often you tell someone’s level of personal comfort,
while speaking on stage, for instance,
by a closed (folded arms) or an open stance (arms by sides).
Most people tend to fluctuate between the two …
so really listen closely when someone’s speaking from the closed position.
Now, let’s chat about your eyes…
….if you’ve not heard of NLP – Neuro Linguistic Programming…
it is helpful in getting visual cues into body language …
and your eye patterns tell a story,
and I do want you to know that guessing …
about when people are lying based on body language and eye movement,
it is Highly UNreliable, just bear that in mind,
it’s been written about since the 70’s …
and still people think they can gauge lying.
(Disclaimer: you may be correct once or twice …
but other body movements may have a factor in that)
What you can start to notice is when people are accessing memories,
visually, auditory or is lodged in a visceral (feeling) place.
So next time someone tells you a story and they look up,
and eyes moving back and forth or just left/right,
they are in sound/voice recall,
and if they are looking down…
they are in a ‘feeling’ place,
connecting with an emotional experience of a situation…
All you need to do to ‘reframe’ your story,
to gain trust with people, to feel confident,
and to connect with others in a helpful way…
is shift your physiology!
I didn’t always know this,
and there was a time … in my teens,
when I used to bend my tall body by standing hip and leg extended,
to bring myself lower and closer to where other people stood,
until I realized I wasn’t revealing who I really was…
how could I if I’m trying to be less of who I am?
My twenties were about ‘live and learn’ and improving myself,
So I stand tall now…and love every moment of it.
Now, you may not be ‘tall’ but you are certainly something,
in some area of your being, life, body…
in that area, stand tall…
I did and you can, too.
Start telling your story,
about your life,
about your passions,
about sharing things and experiences …
that could be helpful to others,
even if its just one person…
isn’t that a good feeling?
I hope this was helpful and you understand just a little bit more
why standing up straight and breathing deep
is the start of changing your state.
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Peace & Abundance,
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