Are you comfortable with being uncomfortable? | 3 ways to be more willing to be uncomfortable

 

Does the idea of change…

make your heart start racing…

or does it make your heart sing?

(even if the notes come out shaky at first)…

 

or does the idea of change  …

bring every fear you’ve ever had to the ‘surface’ …

and suddenly that grand idea,

and proclamation of “this is the year I  change EVERYTHING” ….

give you a shot of pain in the solar plexus?

 

Listen….

Before you go berating yourself…

for being less than ‘courageous’ …

 

…let’s take a look at your personal threshold,

for being uncomfortable…

 

because…I want you to know,

Firstly: being ‘uncomfortable’ isn’t always a bad thing,

and you may as well do facetime with your fears.

 

Incidentally, Fear is False Expectations Appearing Real …

and none of it is real, it’s only your limbic brain,

kicking into protective gear…

seriously.

 

And you know it had to happen at some point…

confronting all those inner thinly veiled threats,

…about ‘what could happen’ of you did THAT….

or THAT (fingers in mouth…wide saucer eyes)

 

What you’ll probably notice …

if you’re truly and fully into THIS reading moment,

is that you know you don’t mind being uncomfortable…

in certain areas of ‘life’ and in other areas…

well….

you’re just plain terrified to be in a state of ‘uncomfortable’ …

 

and yet, 2 things occur for you:

 

* the willingness to actually feel it and just be uncomfortable,

for a while…which gives you the true opportunity to grow and expand,

and transform…

 

* the less willing you are to be with ‘uncomfortable’;

you actually experience more stress and psyche suffering,

and you may give different words to that feeling,

but it’s all a similar experience.

 

AND I’m going to let you in on a secret:

You’ll experience some amount of stress,

whether you’re willing or unwilling…

to get into a state of uncomfortable,

and be able to hang there for a time…

and I’ll tell you why…

 

In #1 scenario, it’s because as you grow and expand,

those around you may not,

or they may not like it that you are,

and they may try to stop it for you,

and even if they’re all for it…

 

…growth and expansion for one individual,

changes the ‘relationship’ dynamic,

whatever that relationship is, it will shift,

it has to …

Growth + Expansion = CHANGE

 

And Change can be for better or worst,

but you may as well know that you changing,

changes everything ….

 

…and that’s the level of being uncomfortable,

that stops a lot of people from doing anything.

 

Full stop.

(It’s also a good time to go back and reread that,

because bravery with seriously taking on life is required,

and especially if you are about to get uncomfortable…

and change up EVERYTHING)

 

But that is what you wanted right?

 

Change?

 

Changing it up, improving things in your life…

right?

 

…guess what?

you’re not flying solo in any of this uncomfortable …

‘self awareness’ …

 

So what’s really going on ‘inside’?

 

It’s very simple and elementary, (my dear watson : )…

 

The Limbic brain is trained to ‘keep you safe’ …

and minimizing risks of any kind,

fear and uncomfortableness,

seems a perfect way to accomplish that, yes?

 

 

Although…you probably have noticed that any life transition…

that truly ‘shifted’ anything … did not happen,

without some level of uncomfortableness.

 

or even flat out DIScomfort….

indicating a level of oh no, pain…

and we all avoid pain, don’t we??

(yup, spoken like your true inner 4 year old)

 

Annnddd here’s what uncomfortable doesn’t have to be…

It doesn’t have to be:

TOTALLY painful

Overly Dramatic

Incessantly challenging…

Though as a disclaimer: those things could happen

 

Doing something NEW…

 

(oh let’s say, starting an online business?)

Where you are taking risks,

and have a lot at stake…

can all bring up fear or excitement….

** Tip: you can take your breathing to a deeper place,

and feel it start to shift to higher places in your diaphragm,

where only excitement comes from!

 

The truth is these experiences are all beautiful…

depending on how YOU frame them…

 

Try this:

Breathe into your unwillingness…

Breathe into your ‘uncomfortableness’

<I’m not comfortable with my newly coined word there but I’m leaving it.

Breathe into your ‘FEAR’ … feel it and release it…

Breathe into this thought: “I am bold AND brave”

 

Does any of this mean you’ll know …

EXACTLY what you’re doing?

 

No, in a lot of instances you’ll end up adjusting your course…

to avoid complete crashes….

or you may even ‘f-f-fail’ …

 

…but don’t get me going,

because ‘Fail’ only ever means starting again tomorrow…

Knowing more because of today.

 

EVERYTHING, literally everything you’ve done in life,

started with being uncomfortable…

all those tasks you find easy now,

walking, talking and driving…

were once sources of ‘uncomfortableness’

 

So, let’s reframe the whole enchilada…

rather than ENDURING it,

I want you to try this on…

look change right in the eye…

and say, “bring.it”

just open your mind to newness…

and all that comes with it.

 

…here’s the key part:

your mind will accept this,

IF you have that belief system in place about YOURSELF…

 

So before I give you the 3 tips …

on being more willing to BE uncomfortable…

 

I want you to embrace the idea…

that you believe in yourself as someone who is trustable,

and YOU find yourself totally acceptable to YOU.

 

Make THAT your mission and these 3 things…

will help you to soar!

 

 

  • Look in your personal pantry…(#cleanitup)

What’s going on in there, what canned ideas …

are you carrying about being  uncomfortable?

and what fast mind food causes you undue stress,

just thinking on it?

Set your desire to go straight into denial about the ‘expiration dates’ …

on all that crap you’ve got stashed in there,

just for this time together, okay?

 

 

  • Cop, Own & Express exactly what scares the s*%t out of you…

There’s always something that’s just ‘unacceptable’ to think about…

If you can cop to it, and own that baby and express it out loud if only to yourself…you can set yourself free.

 

  • Accountability, Responsibility, Vulnerability….(I need a pal!)

Get with another person, whom you trust and respect…

and throw it down, just share what you’re going through,

often you’ll want a mentor that’s gone through the same territory…

people you know can honestly look at you and say,

“You, my friend, may be uncomfortable right now…but…you’ve got this!”

 

 

And while you’re in it, I won’t lie or sugarcoat it,

being uncomfortable kind of sucks,

but as Churchill once said,

“if you’re going through hell, just keep going!”

 

If you get comfortable with ‘going through hell’ …

you’ll actually find the heat isn’t as hot as anticipated,

it’s all a distraction to keep you from doing the necessary inner work,

of living a life of purpose, passion and meaning.

 

‘Inviting Abundance’ has its uncomfortable moments,

like standing at the edge of a beautiful cliff…

and all you need to do is take that leap of faith,

in yourself and in your vision…

 

Know what else is required to live a life of Purpose,

Passion and Meaning?

 

An online business presence …

speaking on a topic that gives voice…

to things you are passionate about….

 

…so people know you’re out here…

and sharing your story of struggle,

uncomfortableness and Triumph!

 

Please DO comment, would love to hear from you!

 

 

Wishing you Peace & Abundance always,

 

Zen 

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